It's funny how everyday day when I go home the first thing I do is get online and check my email, facebook and myspace accounts but yet I don't blog. I think I have to force the habit and make it the first thing I do after checking facebook and myspace.
I don't know how you mommy bloggers find the time to blog. I'm not married, I don't have kids, it's just myself and my job and I find it difficult to make time to blog once a week. Moving forward, I will blog a minimum of once a week. It's a commitment I am making to myself today.
So you may be asking yourself what is new with me since my last post on "the back door" or your saying who cares either way, I am going to give you a brief update.
On Halloween I went out with my trainer, her siblings and some of their friends and kissed several guys which included one dressed as a condom, an army man and another as a Star-Wars guy (Note, I do not watch or know anything about Star-Wars all I can tell you is that he was wearing a white outfit with a mask and stuff, haha!) In any event, I offered to give one of the guys a ride home in the morning because we both had to go to work early the next day and he was on my way home.
When we arrived at a friend's house to crash for the night, the guy was a total turn off by farting and talking to himself in the bathroom screaming "yeah baby yeah." he even did it while he tried to hook up with me while I was trying to sleep. He also took my blanket from me throughout the night so I was freezing all night. In any event, I still woke him up in the morning to drop him off at home so he could go to work. We didn't talk much during the ride home as we were both hung over and tired.
Skip forward to a few days later and I recieve a text message from a guy that calls himself Mike saying that we met on Halloween and that he thought I was a cool person and that he got my number from my trainer and if it was okay to call me sometime. I racked my brain trying to think of which guy this could possibly be as I thought I rembered everyone's name that I had met that night. I told the guy he could call me despite not having any idea who he was. When he did call a day or two later I realized it was the guy I drove home the next morning. Turns out everyone calls him by his last name which is one of those names that could be a first name. He asked me out on a date and I said yes because I am willing to give a person a seond chance. I could only hope that he did all those things because he was so drunk that night and couldn't help himself.
The date went well, we went out for sushi and then met some of his friends and went bowling. He was a gentleman, he picked me up and dropped me off at home, gave me a kiss goodbye, came to the door to get me and even paid for dinner, bowling and drinks. Not too many guys do that anymore which is really dissappointing. So when he asked me out on a second date a few days later I said yes. We should be going out one nite this week. I am not totally into him, maybe someone that I would be friends with but who knows.
Next week is Thanksgiving and I can't wait for Chase to come back home. We have a lot more experimenting to do! Now, off to do some work!
Monday, November 17, 2008
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Experimenting with the Backdoor
I should probably start by letting you know that I currently have a friend with benefits and we shall refer to him as Chase. A little background on Chase: He is two and a half years older than me, an officer in the marines and currently stationed at Camp Lejeune in North Carolina. This is a bit of a distance for me to travel to as I live in New Jersey but Chase is from New Jersey and his home is about 5-10 minutes away from me. We also attended the same high school and our best friends are dating each other. We first hooked up three years ago right before I started dating my ex-boyfriend when Chase was home for Christmas and our friends had recently started dating. He called me to hang out while he was home but I had plans to go away for the week while he was home so nothing really ever came of it. We saw each other occasionally over the past three years when he would come home but that was about all.
In May when he came home for 3 weeks I saw him a lot as I had recently broken up with my boyfriend and my friends were encouraging me to come out so that I wasn't sitting at home by myself all the time. One night he had a small party and there was major flirting going on between us throughout the night. One thing led to another and we wound up sleeping together that night. We were both really drunk and somehow decided that we had really amazing sex even though neither of us really remembers it. He was home for another week and we hung out most of that week and had sober sex. Turns out we do have amazing sex, haha! Who would have known? Throughout the summer he came home for some weekends and I even visited while he was in North Carolina once. Every single time we have seen each other, the sex has been amazing, it's like we are completely in tune with one another. I have no idea how to describe other than perfection. He is also the first person to ever make me orgasm, which amazes me because no one else has ever been able to.
We talk through texting just about every week and it's usually just us going back and forth about our sexual fantasies of each other - I don't what it is about him, but I am able to tell him everything I want and desire in bed. I don't feel ashamed, embarrassed, anything - and he makes me feel comfortable about the things I want to experiment with. He also wants and desires many of the same fantasies and we are both open to trying anything. The one thing I told him from the beginning that I was not interested in experimenting with was the backdoor aka anal. I have always been curious but I was pretty sure that I would only ever want to try that with the person I am going to marry as I would need have a lot of trust in that person. That is not a sexual action that you just do as a woman, with the wrong person you can injure, cause pain or hurt yourself.
Chase is very aware of my feelings about this but he has told me repeatedly how much he loves my ass and that although he fantasizes about playing with it he would never force or ask me to do anything that I didn't want to do. Over these past few months, Chase was been the best lover I have ever had and can ever imagine having; we are so in sync with one another that I am able to trust him in a way that I have not been able to do with previous lovers. I think this is one of the many reasons I have been able to orgasm with him and no else because I am so relaxed and comfortable with him. So when he described one of his anal fantasies to me one day I surprised him by telling him that I might be open to it the next time we saw each other. When he realized that I was serious we had a few discussions and he told me that we would go really slow, use lots of lube and if at any time I wanted to stop we would. I knew when he told me these things, he meant it - whereas when people in the past have said this to me I did not believe them and therefore never experimented with them.
So, this past weekend we experimented, we went real slow, first with his mouth and then his fingers. I have to say that we didn't go any further then that because it took a while to get used to and it's a weird feeling. We did try it several times throughout the weekend, always going slow and we communicated very well with each other letting the other know what we wanted. I am definitely open to trying this again next time I see him but I think I just need some time to adjust to all of this.
We also had the most passionate sex we have ever had this weekend; as my friends and I call it, "I love you sex" except I don't love Chase and he doesn't love me so it was "I love you sex without the love." I feel like I am addicted to having sex with him because it is so amazing. We both say that every time we have sex, it just keeps getting better than the time before. We have yet to have bad or even somewhat boring sex. I work two jobs and I cannot keep buy a plane ticket to go and visit him every month. It's not that I can't afford to buy the plane ticket but I am working two jobs so that I can buy a house and move out of my mom's house. Thankfully, Chase will be home for both Thanksgiving and Christmas; he also mentioned that he might be in NYC for Fleet week which is coming up shortly so I could go visit him if he is in the city as it is not too far away from me. Lets cross our fingers for Fleet Week!
In May when he came home for 3 weeks I saw him a lot as I had recently broken up with my boyfriend and my friends were encouraging me to come out so that I wasn't sitting at home by myself all the time. One night he had a small party and there was major flirting going on between us throughout the night. One thing led to another and we wound up sleeping together that night. We were both really drunk and somehow decided that we had really amazing sex even though neither of us really remembers it. He was home for another week and we hung out most of that week and had sober sex. Turns out we do have amazing sex, haha! Who would have known? Throughout the summer he came home for some weekends and I even visited while he was in North Carolina once. Every single time we have seen each other, the sex has been amazing, it's like we are completely in tune with one another. I have no idea how to describe other than perfection. He is also the first person to ever make me orgasm, which amazes me because no one else has ever been able to.
We talk through texting just about every week and it's usually just us going back and forth about our sexual fantasies of each other - I don't what it is about him, but I am able to tell him everything I want and desire in bed. I don't feel ashamed, embarrassed, anything - and he makes me feel comfortable about the things I want to experiment with. He also wants and desires many of the same fantasies and we are both open to trying anything. The one thing I told him from the beginning that I was not interested in experimenting with was the backdoor aka anal. I have always been curious but I was pretty sure that I would only ever want to try that with the person I am going to marry as I would need have a lot of trust in that person. That is not a sexual action that you just do as a woman, with the wrong person you can injure, cause pain or hurt yourself.
Chase is very aware of my feelings about this but he has told me repeatedly how much he loves my ass and that although he fantasizes about playing with it he would never force or ask me to do anything that I didn't want to do. Over these past few months, Chase was been the best lover I have ever had and can ever imagine having; we are so in sync with one another that I am able to trust him in a way that I have not been able to do with previous lovers. I think this is one of the many reasons I have been able to orgasm with him and no else because I am so relaxed and comfortable with him. So when he described one of his anal fantasies to me one day I surprised him by telling him that I might be open to it the next time we saw each other. When he realized that I was serious we had a few discussions and he told me that we would go really slow, use lots of lube and if at any time I wanted to stop we would. I knew when he told me these things, he meant it - whereas when people in the past have said this to me I did not believe them and therefore never experimented with them.
So, this past weekend we experimented, we went real slow, first with his mouth and then his fingers. I have to say that we didn't go any further then that because it took a while to get used to and it's a weird feeling. We did try it several times throughout the weekend, always going slow and we communicated very well with each other letting the other know what we wanted. I am definitely open to trying this again next time I see him but I think I just need some time to adjust to all of this.
We also had the most passionate sex we have ever had this weekend; as my friends and I call it, "I love you sex" except I don't love Chase and he doesn't love me so it was "I love you sex without the love." I feel like I am addicted to having sex with him because it is so amazing. We both say that every time we have sex, it just keeps getting better than the time before. We have yet to have bad or even somewhat boring sex. I work two jobs and I cannot keep buy a plane ticket to go and visit him every month. It's not that I can't afford to buy the plane ticket but I am working two jobs so that I can buy a house and move out of my mom's house. Thankfully, Chase will be home for both Thanksgiving and Christmas; he also mentioned that he might be in NYC for Fleet week which is coming up shortly so I could go visit him if he is in the city as it is not too far away from me. Lets cross our fingers for Fleet Week!
Thursday, October 9, 2008
The Adventure of Blogging
Hello out there...
So this blogging thing seems to be pretty popular and I guess I am curious what the fuss is all about. So if anyone is out there reading this here are some things about myself:
So this blogging thing seems to be pretty popular and I guess I am curious what the fuss is all about. So if anyone is out there reading this here are some things about myself:
- I love Buffy the Vampire Slayer
- I started reading comics about a year ago when I found out BTVS was being continued in comic book form (Season 8 is really good!)
- Sarah Michelle Gellar is amazing
- I am trying to write a book
- It will probably take me a really long time...
- I work in PR
- I also work a second job as a manager at my local YMCA
- I love to work out
- I enjoy writing
- I once was in love
- and I think I still love him but I am coming to realize that he is not the man I want to spend the rest of my life with, I deserve better
- I am constantly changing what I want every week
- I love to travel
- but I don't feel like I travel enough
- I love NYC
- and partying there
- and well I love to party in any major city
- I am in a point in my life where all I want is my independence and I want to experience everything that I possibly can
So, I'm not quite sure what I will write about in this blog but I am sure I will discuss the places I travel to, funny things that happen in my life, and I will probably discuss sex alot as it is the most pleasurably thing in life and I enjoy it very much. You may realize that many of my traveling stories will involve sex though I do not do anything illegal, I just don't see anything wrong with having "friends with benefits" or having sex while not being in a committed relationship. If you are reading this and have any questions for me, ask away. I am an open book and will answer just about anything. So this is my first blog post and it's nice to meet you all.
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